Davie and I have a little ritual. When she is calming down for a nap or especially for bedtime, I hold her standing right by her crib. We don't rock or bounce. We just stand there, fairly still, maybe swaying a little bit. She smashes the side of her head up against my face, and I smooch-smooch-smooch her temple. (I think her Nanna started this one weekend and it caught on.) At first I thought it was something that I made happen . . . but now I believe she wants/needs it. It is soothing for both of us. Then I lay her down and usually that is that.