Sunday, September 21, 2008

She's growing up so fast!

Last night I gave Steven the night off.  He went out with some friends from out of town and Davie and I had a quiet evening at home . . . semi-quiet.  We went to bed around 8:15pm, I in my queen-size bed, she in her laundry basket beside me.  This is usually her "fussy time" so I was a little worried.  Indeed it was her fussy time this evening, no exception just because Dad is not there to walk her around the house until she is sleeping soundly.  Every time my eyes drifted shut, she would start crying.  I'd wait a few minutes and when she got louder and more frantic, I picked her up and calmed her down.  I even gave her a pacifier a few times, but each time it fell out while she was sleeping she'd wake up crying again.  

I had read that 15-20 minutes of crying isn't going to scar a baby for life . . . I just wasn't sure if I was going to be able to lay there right beside her for that long listening to her sad little cry for 15-20 minutes . . . or 5 minutes for that matter.  So, I took her basket to her room and put it in her crib and turned on the monitor and went back to my bed.  A bit later the crying started.  I lowered the volume on the monitor slightly and waited.  After five minutes, she was asleep . . . without a pacifier.  (I had also read that sometimes babies need to exert that energy through crying to sleep soundly, and when you keep picking them up, you rob them of that).  

She stayed in her room the WHOLE night, like a big girl.  It was good for us as parents because when she slept right beside the bed anytime she made a peep, we'd pat her, or pick her up, or stick a pacifier in her mouth.  But when you hear her little whimpers through the monitor, and your only decision is to wait it out or to get out of bed and walk to her room at 2am, it makes it a little easier to wait.  And she has never slept so well . . . after the earlier episode that is.  

Now the question is when the crying lasts for longer than 5 minutes . . . what do we do?


Amanda A. said...

wow! impressive!
Off the subject, but any good books on breastfeeding to pass along? I kept accidentally typing boobs instead of books :)

Melinda said...

Hey, I found your blog through someone else's. I am an OBU grad also but I don't think we knew each other. My daughter is now 5 months old. Your baby is adorable. Enjoy every minute because it is going by so fast for me! I breastfeed also and I hope it gets easier for you with time. By the time my baby was about 2 or 3 months we both had the hang of it and I couldn't imagine it any other way. It is so rewarding! I haven't read the book you wrote about but we did a lot of that stuff on our own and my advice to you would be to keep up the swaddling as long as possible. We still swaddle at night because it helps her sleep better. Best wishes!