Monday, September 29, 2008

Real Daddies Love Diapers!

If you are a new mom, then you probably feel like no one can take care of your baby as good as you.  I don't know if it's a "if you want something done right, do it yourself" mentality, or just a mother's instinct, or something else - but it's there.  

There is no one I trust in the world with Davie more than my husband Steven.  I mean, we've made all our decisions involving her together, so he knows everything.  The only thing he is lacking is "motherly instincts" . . . AKA - what seems like common sense to a woman.  But that sure seems like a lot sometimes.  The GREAT thing is that I have a husband that wants to be as involved as possible.

I got some great advice from one of my student's mothers a few days before I went into labor.  By the way, I respect this woman immensely because her daughter was angelic in every category of life.  You could tell she was raised right.  Her darling mother asked who would be watching Davie when I returned to work, and I told her that fortunately my husband worked from home during the weekdays and he would be taking care of her.  She thought this was spectacular.  She said, "Let him do as much as possible with her.  So many moms just do everything themselves and don't let the father's actually care for the baby."

I read that it's important for dads to change diapers, help with feeding, give baths, pack diaper bags, etc.  This is more for the father's sense of bonding than the babies.  If the dad takes care of the baby (not just holds and plays with) when they are little, they will feel more responsible for them as they grow up and be more involved throughout their life.  VITAL!  

I go back to school (to answer Amanda's question) on October 20th.  So, as hard as it is, I have the added motivation of knowing that in 3 short weeks, whether I like it or not, Davie and Daddy are on their own for at least 9 hours a day, 5 days a week.  


Shan said...

aw... that makes me sad :( three weeks..

Melinda said...

I couldn't agree more. Watching my husband become a daddy developed a new and deeper love than I had for him before.

Pleasant Drive said...

What a precious picture of you guys! I LOVE it!